Genesis 2:18-25 "Then the Lord God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him." So the Lord God formed from the ground all the wild animals and all the birds of the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would call them, and the man chose a name for each one. He gave names for all the livestock, all the birds of the sky and all the wild animals. But still there was no helper just right for him. So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep. While the man slept, the Lord God took out one of the man's ribs and closed up the opening. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib and brought her to the man. "At last!" the man exclaimed. "This one is bone from my bone and flesh from my flesh! She will be called woman because she was taken from man."
There are a number of things we can gain from this text: 1. Being alone isn't good. 2. Women were made to be a help, not a hindrance. 3. Animal relationships can't take the place of human relationships. 4. The woman came from the man's side, so 5. As a man protects his own flesh and cares for his own flesh, he should care for his woman. 6. Adam came up with some pretty rad names for animals.
(As I started to write this, I realized how long this would be if I addressed all of these points in one post. So I will be breaking it up over the next few days and just hit the first point today.)
Being alone isn't good. As moms, it's kind of impossible to be physically alone with all the little munchkins hanging off of us and then a husband who wants to have "mommy-daddy time"... a lot. (This is not an excuse to neglect him or deny him, it makes him feel unwanted. Remember, your body is getting used up with affection from the kids all day, which is exhausting, but his body is getting nothing. You need to help fill that void of his. If you are feeling overwhelmed with all the physical contact, talk with your husband and figure out a compromise. It sounds weird, but schedule your week out with "on" and "off" days, if you know what I mean ;)) And if you are an introvert like me, you pray for alone time! So how can this possibly apply to our situation?
Let me ask you this; even though you are always around your kids and you see your husband every day, do you feel alone? Do you feel alone in the constant battle with the kids? Like no one could possibly understand how you feel? And when you think and feel like this, do you get depressed, angry, anxious, exhausted, sad? That's because you aren't reaching out to other women who can identify with you and encourage you. Even just make you laugh about the messes the kids make. Having mommy friends can completely transform a disaster of a day into a really funny story.
Satan loves to isolate us. Our all-knowing God knew, from the beginning, before Adam even had an option of a friend and help-mate, that being alone makes us vulnerable, so he built into us a desire to have relationships, friendships, marriages. Yes, you can and should be best friends with your husband. You should be able to talk to him about anything and everything. And talking to him about your day is good and it does help. Don't misunderstand what I am saying. Talk to your husband often. But also have close relationships with other women your age and a little more "seasoned" in life to give counsel, perspective, encouragement and you need to do the same for them.
When you are alone, Satan attacks. When you isolate yourself from friends and accountability, Satan attacks. Don't be so attackable. Don't be alone. It's not a good situation.
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